“This is the story of a little boy and his mother who were poor but honest,” I told my sons when they asked for a story. “His father was dead, so they lived on whatever money his mom brought home, working as a domestic help.”

Although I had a wide range of stories to choose from – fairy tales to Alif Laila, I decided to tell them a positive story from my homeland, a land they have not yet seen but are keen to know about.

When I was a child, I thought there were plenty of positive stories. Now I am not so sure. Are you?

On Eid day, the mother said to her son: “Wake up, beta, it’s time for Eid prayers.”

“Didn’t she go with him to the mosque?” asked my son Ramiz.

“No, she had to clean up their little hut and prepare something for Eid,” I lied.

I did not tell him that in my country mosques are for men only.

It would have confused my children. Their mother goes to the mosque with them. Also, at school they pray with girls, not separately.

“I hope she made a cake for him because I do not like Eid dishes,” said Ariz.

“No, beta, she did not make a cake and cooked no Eid dishes either.” This time I could not lie.

“Why not?” asked Ryan.

“Because they had no money,” I said.

“They were poor, don’t you see,” said Ariz to his brother. “They will get food from the community kitchen.”

“They lived in a small village where there was no community kitchen,” I said, not telling them that many sleep hungry in my country, Eid or no Eid.

“Why are there so many poor people where you come from, Baba?” asked Ramiz.

I did not know why but Ryan saved me. “Let’s proceed with the story,” he said.

“The boy went out of the hut and started washing himself,” I said.

“Out in the open? Didn’t they have a bathroom?” asked one of the three.

“Most people do not have bathrooms there,” I had to admit.

“They do not have bathrooms?” this time all three shouted together. “How is it possible?” asked one. “How can you not have a bathroom?” asked another.

Not sure how to respond, I said: “They had not yet built one.”

“OK, OK, so they go to a public toilet,” said the third one.

I could not tell him that I once went to a public toilet back home and could not eat the whole day.

The boy washed himself and said: “Mom, I am ready. Where is my Eid dress?”

The mother gave him his dress: a pair of old Shalwar Kameez with patches to hide the holes.

“But mom, people wear new clothes on Eid,” the boy protested.

“You know, beta, we cannot afford new clothes,” said the mother, wiping her tears.

The son, being a poor boy, understood and put on the dress. He then asked for food. The mother gave him some pieces of bread with pickles. The son, being poor, understood and ate what his mother gave.

“How could he understand so much, he was just a little boy?” asked Ramiz.

“He did,” said I, without daring to explain that where I come from poor boys and girls understand everything. They have to because they have no choice.

After he finished eating, the mother sent her poor son to the mosque, wiping her tears.

“Why just cry?” asked one of the three. “She could have done some extra work and bought her son a pair of new clothes and food for Eid day,” he said.

I could not explain that being a young widow, she did not have too many options.

The mosque was far from his hut. The boy walked slowly, with a heavy heart, looking at other boys in new clothes and with filled stomachs.

He went to the mosque and sat in a corner. No one greeted him and he greeted no one.

When the prayer was over, he got up quietly and walked out of the mosque. Nobody hugged him or said ‘Eid Mubarak’ to him.

“No, that’s not true,” said Ryan. “So many people greet you and you have to hug so many that it hurts.”

It reminded me of his comments after the Eid prayers, “enough of Eid Mubarak, dad. Let’s go home.”

“But this boy was poor,” I said.

“So nobody says Eid Mubarak to a poor boy?” asked Ariz. “That’s too bad.”

“Not exactly, there are a lot of good people too,” I defended my homeland. “They give food and clothes to the poor and say Eid Mubarak to them as well.”

It was a half-truth. I have seen people giving food and clothes but never saw people saying Eid Mubarak to the poor.

The boy was very sad. He too wanted new clothes and Eid food. Also, he did not like the way people treated him in the mosque, pushing him to the last row.

When he thought of this he too started crying. And that’s when an angel came to him.

(As I brought this angel into the story, I thought: “If the boy tells his neighbours that an angel came to him, they will accuse him of blasphemy. If they are lucky, his mother and he will spend the rest of their lives in prison. If not, they will be killed.”)


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Comments (61)

P N Eswaran
August 30, 2012 2:27 pm
Falsehood is addicting. The writer should apologize for disturbing your delusions.
Majority
August 29, 2012 10:10 am
An observation to reflect on!
edwin
August 29, 2012 9:07 am
When I read this story it took me back to when I was a kid. We did not have much but my parents struggled a lot to give us an education and the best of life that they could. My parebts are no more but they taught us to be self sufficient. By the grace of God today we have everything but have not forgotten our past. thank you my parents, may you get all the hapiness in God's Kingdom, and thank you 'writer' for this story
hoover
August 28, 2012 10:59 am
Great article. you have an eye to see the other dimensions of the world and hence you are able to see what others might not. Very few people have such kind of Intellect. great!!!!
Majority
August 28, 2012 8:08 am
@ El Cid for one I partly agree with you. a very wisely put answer by Waleed, indeed. Which does not go on to say that self criticism should be nipped at the bud. On the contrary, self criticism will only make us stronger and self reflection will help for improving the stand and image as a nation better. @ Waleed like you I see a lot of good in Pakistan and potential too, what I am transferring to my son. But I also tell my son that there is a lot of bad in this world, regardless of where it is and that those who aim to make the world a better place for others and themselves in whatever magnitude are the fortunate ones.
Raj
August 27, 2012 9:19 pm
Hope you have less children than other muslims who have dozens. If you have one or two kids, then you can give them a good education and help them to become a good human.
Sri1
August 27, 2012 7:19 am
Please pull up the proportions/percentages of rich/middle-class/poor/poorest people in the USA and Pakistan? You will know which story is more representative then!
Akhter Husain
August 27, 2012 6:59 am
Very touchy I can only shed few tears. It will be normal attitude there after, that is, never to think about down-trodden.
rehan
August 27, 2012 5:22 am
Maybe the writer can come back and do something about the problems instead of writing about it from thousands of miles away !!!
raskal
August 27, 2012 2:20 am
I think out society is getting numb from listening tales likes this. It is really dangerous.. Let's start offering solution..... and practical solution. Can we have some Muhammad Younis of Bangaldesh among us?
Iqbal Hussain
August 26, 2012 4:42 pm
When I went through the article it took me back in 70s when the things were not favorable for us in terms of resources available to live with happiness and comfortably. There was only one bread earner who used to feed 10 members of the family, a practice of a joint-family that’s why the people were hand to mouth. However despite growing up in poverty our parents left no stone untenured to educate us at least matric level (up to class 10) and it is we who further studied and did our Master and PhDs’ - So we should not blame our parents they did according to their strength & access. I am certain that we are self-made and we should not be reluctant to share with our children that “Yes I am self-made and I did a lot of struggle to make my life” whatever the luxurious you have owned it has been earned after multiple sacrifice, working day and night for gold and glory with the only motive to attain betterment and advancement of our children. Such conviction & devotion will enable our children to think about us and this will be a key message for them to prosper, grow and make their life more successful.
Arpit
August 26, 2012 3:48 pm
What an amazing tale! My heart cried out when the young kid was offered the goodies and he didn't take it. People of Pakistan need enlightenment. The society is in duplicity.
ashar aneel
August 26, 2012 12:07 pm
great work anwer bhai! wonder full piece of writing!
sanam
August 26, 2012 10:21 am
Anwar iqbal is a good writer i am reader of his writings make me nostalgic as he always look in his paragraphs of reporting his short stories reminds me late 70s 80,Anwar's kids don't know about his home land is a hell for innocence but when they ll grow up they will know them selves Anwar don't want to feel ashamed when his children will say our father is a brave man he survived such a idiotic society on earth,Anwar is a roving eye for dawn.com, he is a story teller of story tellers,cheers
AK
August 26, 2012 10:20 am
Your response is better than the article. There are billions of sad stories in this human race of 6 billion and more people. We should not sugar-coat them and try to turn every human story a positive one... but that cause is certainly not helped by the dozens of daily blogs in our english papers that compete with each other in which spreads more pessimism and self-hatred. A more positive approach would be to do a rational and objective analysis of the problems, discuss solutions, and present positive examples to inspire others. Just one example: Every time i visit Pakistan, i see new examples of smart entrepreneurs that have come up with innovative business ideas and succeeding with them (e.g. the solar rickshaw concept) despite all the social and economic problems... however i am yet to see any blog or documentary that celebrate such examples.
pk surendran
August 26, 2012 10:15 am
Great Anwar, a revealing story. Any community that discrimiantes against a sex is blind, deaf and has no right to exist. I, as a journalist, had writen (12 yeears ago) how the high priest of a Trivandrum mosque (forgot his name) defied orthodoxy and allowed women to pray with men (with a screen dividing them). The bigots howled but he was firm. We featured him in Times of India. It was a great act opening eyes of those unlettered Mullahs who wanted women out. Dont be a coward. pschology of religious terrorists is that of a dog's. if you run, it will come after you. Dare it, it will wimp and go away
kumar
August 26, 2012 7:51 am
... and be in denial...
Aamir
August 26, 2012 7:24 am
Lets have the courage to tell our children that Angels (if they exist?) do not interfere in our lives and people have to fight it out in this jungle on our own.
DrShaf
August 26, 2012 7:09 am
WOWWW
zafar musyani khuzdar
August 26, 2012 6:43 am
superb and heart touching article, may all help those who spend their Eid without dress and shoes and other needs and with a paining stomach
Cheema
August 26, 2012 6:10 am
I am not going to judge if the purpose of the story is to ridicule our country or to try a positive change by identifying very important negative behaviours in our society. Personally I believe the writer wants us to realize these shortcommings in our society and understand the true meaning of Eid that is sharing with poor and treat them as our brothers. Excellent article. I also agree with the difficulties faced by women in our society as highlighted by the author and we have to give a better environment to our women. These are realities and we should try to change ourselves.
Ali Arman
August 26, 2012 5:20 am
Pain is painful but articulated pain with such perfection is lethal but it moves us to rise up and struggle for a change. Mr Anwar you are a lethal writer but keep it up so we can rise from ashes.
Biswajeet Banerjee
August 26, 2012 4:44 am
A touching story. I am from Lucknow in India. The situation here in no different. You brought stark reality of life veneered in positivity. Congrats sir.
Ravi
August 26, 2012 2:36 am
You brought tears to my eyes
skylark
August 26, 2012 1:52 am
Each one of the Anwar iqbal 's writing is soul searching it has come to the stage that he brings the truth of life in words as never before. A nation of despondency should wake up and can see the darkness and try to search for light.
asim
August 25, 2012 11:57 pm
religions are man made!
Cyrus Howell
August 25, 2012 11:30 pm
You have a point, but too many in Pakistan are ducking their political and social responsibilities. You can't lead from behind.
Ali Anwar
August 25, 2012 10:53 pm
I so agree with waleed. Looks like Dawn has gone around and picked writers who have nothing positive to say about pakistan. I have been noticing this for a while. Dawn seems to cherish negativity , that is all they do. Instead of using this platform and using it to provide solutions they are dissemanating negativity. Most of dawns writers are just that "writers". there are very few practical achievers at Dawn. people who have accomplished something or done something worthwhile. any body can sit around and indulge in negative talk all the time.r Change YOur attitude Dawn or you will lose readership.
Hana
August 25, 2012 10:49 pm
Splendid story
kaiser
August 25, 2012 9:09 pm
It seems that we make them "winners" by first making them losers.
El Cid
August 25, 2012 7:42 pm
@Waleed: Such an intelligent constructive positive response. So wisely put. With people like you still around, Edhi and Imran Khan has a vibrant energy source: A well-spring of energatic, emotionally mature and physically healthy people to draw from. The transfer of depression, despondency and defeat to the next generation has to be nipped in the bud and replaced with enthusiasm, energy, courage and foresight...your post demonstrates. Well said.
Secular Pakistani
August 25, 2012 6:59 pm
anwar bhai this is some great stuff
Sam Malone
August 25, 2012 6:56 pm
Yes!
Abubakar
August 25, 2012 6:16 pm
Very beautiful,heart touching and inspiring article.
fugacity
August 25, 2012 5:51 pm
+1 to Waleed's comments. Choosing the right and truthful words that bring out the positive can be very hard, but not impossible. I'm sure you can imagine a child at first day of school (pre-school, etc.). When you pick up the child, you can either say "did you cry" or "did you have fun?" The choice is yours and what comes out is a reflection of your own mindset.
Deepen C
August 25, 2012 5:44 pm
Pakistan has the best story to tell their children for generations to come........ The story how Americans found out OBL in the backyard of the country's army camp!
Nadeem Khan
August 25, 2012 4:51 pm
Fully agree with your thoughts, these are so called Liberal Pakistanis who make Pakistani Bashing a habit and couldnt see any positive image of Pakistani. Why dont Anwar Iqbal come back to Pakistan and become an angel
Zimbo_Indian
August 25, 2012 4:19 pm
The bitter truth
Rehman
August 25, 2012 3:30 pm
But far from facts and reality!!!
Ehsan Hadi
August 25, 2012 3:29 pm
I agree, this story depicts the negativity prevailing in our society, and newspaper. They don't want to see the positivity in anything or talk about the good being done by a lot of people.
Ali
August 25, 2012 3:27 pm
i like ur ideas
Asad Malik
August 25, 2012 3:13 pm
Thank you for writing what I was about to
raika45
August 25, 2012 2:18 pm
Even in my country that is supposed to be a modern Muslim nation,I do not see many women worshiping in mosques. Why? Is not the house of Allah open to all his believers?
Tahir M. Raja
August 25, 2012 1:37 pm
Respecting Anwar sb. opinion but unfortunately the thoughts of most of us who speak,write and think in English and especially sitting in foreign land are very different as to the reality. In the present world this is primarily due to the manner in which my "Land" is presented by the media which includes even own own media. I am from the English medium and went every day for Taravees to the mosque and than on Eid. Sorry sir, the situation was not as presented. As to angel coming to the ones with poverty. KIndly do not give a wrong impression. First ask the ones who on the earth are duty bound to do away with the problems such as poverty,etc. And than question pious role players like Angels. We need to start thinking in a balance and realistic manner.
Ali Jaffar Zaidi
August 25, 2012 12:52 pm
Beautifully expressed, vey touching.
Iftikhar Siddique
August 25, 2012 12:50 pm
Well done, once again, Anwar Iqbal. Its a dilemma that haunts us all, who live in the West. What do we tell our children, when they question us about our homeland? And most of us, we lie. We tell blatant lies not only to our children but also to our friends to save face and the pride, we take in the country of our origin. Its the cost of patriotism that we happily pay at the expense of our conscious.
Mahfooz Ahmad
August 25, 2012 12:29 pm
Mahfooz malik Hey Anwar Iqbal you have surprised me yet again .It is a very moving and wonderful reflection on a class society where even angels feel hesitant to visit.Well done .
sampat
August 25, 2012 11:50 am
Waleed. Your point about too much negativity not being good is well taken but the man is writing a story integrating all the social ills in a country. Similar stories can be written about other countries too. The point is that we should introspect and learn from it be it the ill-treatment of blacks/brown in America or the struggle of untouchables in India. In both Pakistan and India there are lots of well to do people who can do a whole lot more for the poor and these kinds of wonderful stories can provoke them into doing something positive for the community. Peace.
sampat
August 25, 2012 11:33 am
Wonderful Story sir. Made me feel human not hindu nor indian. There are many poor in south asia. May we all get motivated to do more to help others in our neighbourhood.
Kantesh
August 25, 2012 11:26 am
"I consulted other angels and they also said that in your country people can stone an angel too"....hehe.......funny....i liked it........seems a truth..............